Am I a bad feminist?

I am a feminist. I declare this pretty regularly, not because I need to show off how "woke" I am but because I believe in it. I believe in equal pay for equal work, I see that the gender gap in STEM industry is real and needs changing and I feel myself physically fill with rage everytime Ross does anything on F.R.I.E.N.D.S. Despite this, I ask myself the question "Am I a bad feminist?" every Friday night.

This is because in my household, Friday night is Grand Tour night. At the end of the week, I sit down with my parents, switch on Amazon Prime and enjoy watching The Grand Tour. The reason for this is that the show is headed up by perhaps the epitome of the anti-feminist himself - Jeremy Clarkson. Yet, I find myself unangrily, unironically, unconcernedly laughing at loud at the antics and things that Clarkson, Hammond and May say. Occasionally, one of them will say something that is a blatant middle finger to what they would call 'politically correct culture' and I won't laugh, but I also won't get angry about it. I may tut, but I will forgive them - leading me to the golden question posed earlier.

A little voice in the back of my head will say "You are a bad feminist because you forgive these unforgiveable jokes!". This little voice will soon after be drowned out by the more logical part of my brain and I realise I forgive them, not because I am a bad feminist, but because in my heart I know these men are dinosaurs with outdated views on society and probably don't accept the changing times because they are stuck in their ways.

It is no longer 'political correctness' but simply 'being a decent human being'. But it's ok, because I just watch them on TV, I don't have to interact with them, or work with them - instead I surround myself with people who have the same views as me, and the same hope for the future. These three dinosaurs destroying cars are simply entertainment.

No, I am not a perfect feminist. Sometimes I wear makeup so boys will look at me, I shave my armpits and my legs when I have a shower because I like the way it looks - things for which, in the past, I would have told myself off; but not now. In the wake of the downfall of the male Hollywood elite and the joy of Oprah Winfrey and Emma Watson - I have had an epiphany. In my mere humble opinion, the most important thing about feminism today is the big picture: the right for women to make their own choices without pressure, impediment or expectation from anyone else. That is what makes a good feminist, not the TV you enjoy. So, I may not be the perfect feminist, but I am the best version I can be.

Of course, there is one more question which I shall answer for you now:

No, I am not going to burn my bra - I need the support.